External Appearance in ‘Phase of LOVE’!?

How important is the external appearance in ‘Phase of LOVE’?

I am asking this question because today morning someone I don’t talk to but acknowledge each others presence each day…had opened to me and asked me, “Madam, Should I make any changes to my teeth or should I leave it just like this?”

At first I did not understand but answered, “You are just fine, why do want to change anything?”

I could feel the relief coming over then later came to know that, that the person had slipped and fell flat on the face and broke partial of the front teeth that is usually seen when we speak, laugh or cry….!!!

Then, I noticed the broken teeth and the effect it was doing to the person’s face. Though it was negligible, it was evident only when I saw it for the second time and this time, I was looking at the broken teeth without any reference to it… I knew it was there.

To me, it did not make much difference and the person looked the same…but for that person things had changed, there was a mesmerising change and hurt…the person was not comfortable with what was being reflected in the mirror everyday morning, noon and night…!

Sleepless days followed…tears flowed…endless thinking…several questions…no comfort…pain…hatred…loss…thirst to change that one moment…anger at self…sevral suggestions…several visits to cilincs…all this happened with just one moment in life.

I could not grasp…the emotions…why is this feeling more than the pain that broken teeth is causing to you?The person told me it was still paining at that place and it has been 4 days back…the pain is such that having something to chew is becoming a difficult…!

The pain on the jaw is less than the mental torture the picture raised…!

Can you believe it…? Can physical pain be nothing in front of the mind and its tortures?

Adding to all this, this person was attracted to somebody and was waiting to tell that person…about the way, the feeling was flowing…now, even before there is an acceptance…there is the fear of rejection – just because of a broken front teeth?!

I marveled and that person after telling me all the confrontations and struggles of the poor mind and body, told me of the emotional pain!!

I was dumbstruck…How can appearance be all that important when you are in pain and loss…?!

I told that person…that is just fine…Relax…You liking a person does not stand on whether you have a teeth or a broken teeth…? You are just fine and go ahead…life will continue.

I could see a respite on the face but the reluctant mind kept ticking…I am left skeptical!!